“Free your children to love you both.”
— Katherine Woodward Thomas
As a parent, you always want to do what is best for your child, but sometimes your best intentions get sidelined by emotional wounds, old patterns, and difficult relationship dynamics, or you just aren’t sure how to help them through this time. I can help you navigate these pain points and uncertainties and put your children first so you can operate out of your great love and desire to do what’s best for them.
Regardless of your current situation, whether you’re preparing for divorce and want to make sure you do it in the least painful way for your children, you’re struggling to do “the right thing” the first time, or whether you feel like you’ve failed and want a “do-over,” it’s not too late. There is no time limit to healing – there’s always space to heal any situation at any time. Even if your co-parent is not a willing partner, you have the power to change the dynamic of your situation and create stability and healing for your child.
Conscious Co-Parenting:
Create peace and healing instead of guilt and overwhelm
Ease co-parenting struggles, even with lack of cooperation or differing parenting styles
Minimize pain for your children and help them heal and thrive
Create a blended and expanded family instead of a broken family
Navigate parallel parenting with a narcissist or difficult personality
There is no formula, cookie cutter or blanket approach that will give you what you need, as your family is made up of unique personalities and relationship dynamics. I use a holistic, intuitive approach to provide emotional, logistical and practical guidance during and after separation or divorce with focused and specific guidance tailored to your family:
Pre Divorce: How to tell your children about the divorce, how to navigate emotions and behavioral changes, transition and timing, how to communicate what will happen and provide stability for your children during an unstable time.
Divorce: Navigating custody, co-parenting and holiday schedules, creating dual homes, co-parenting best practices, how to navigate your child’s emotions and behavioral changes, how to heal past relationship issues to move forward in peace, how to align parenting styles and discipline, and conflict resolution.
Post Divorce: How to navigate differing parenting styles, how to heal past relationship issues to move forward in peace, conflict resolution, parallel parenting with a difficult personality, how to help your child heal and thrive, how to navigate the dynamics of new partners and blending families and how to work through existing co-parenting struggles.
Co-parenting with peace and love does not mean you have to pretend to like your former partner or spend time with them "for the kids." It means that you love your children so much that you are not willing to put them in the middle of any discord. It means that you are willing to take full responsibility for your own energy and your own actions and to only respond with peace, regardless of the situation. It means you don't make (or allow anyone else to make) a negative comment around your children about their other parent and allow them to remain a carefree child — full of magic, wonder and love despite the situation. It means healing any relationship issues within yourself so you can hold a space of peace around your former partner. This is not easy, and it takes time and practice, but it will be one of the most impactful things you can do for your children and yourself.
You will be a co-parent for your remaining lives: through graduations, weddings, births - every significant milestone and event. Let these events, and your children, be filled with peace instead of pain.
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Questions? Check out my offerings to learn more about what types of support I offer. You can also contact me or schedule a discovery call to find out the best path forward for your situation.